Godly Sex Vs. Ungodly Sex - EXPANDED AND IMPROVED
Godly Sex Vs. Ungodly Sex - 2007
EXPANDED AND IMPROVED.
Copyright 6/23/'06; Revised 11/14/07
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by Lee Tyler, P.O.Box 620763, San Diego,
CA 92162-0763; oldeservant@excite.com
It is clearly understood that Gentiles, those who are not Jews, not descendants of Israel or or those who covenanted with Jesus-Jehovah at Sinai - -
that such people are no longer required by Jesus-Jehovah to keep, observe and obey the Old Testament Law. But it is clear that when Jesus used the terms fornication, i.e. sex sin including adultery, homosexuality, incest and all sexual relations between two people who are not joined together by God in marriage
- - He did not change the Old Testament definition of sex sin. When the Spirit led the Apostles in Acts 15 and 21 to declare to be free from OT Law observance all who are not descendants of the Sinai covenanters, Israel
and the mixed multitude, He did not change the Old Testament definition of sex sin when He led the Apostles to declare - - -
++++”25* But concerning those of the nations who have believed, we have written, deciding that they should observe no such thing, only to keep themselves both from things offered to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication.” Acts 21
So we who are under the New Covenant, the Law of Christ, are expected by God to keep ourselves from what the OT Law declares to be sex sin. While the definitions came into the Church age unchanged, the social and legal consequences of sex sin under OT Law
did not remain unchanged. Israel today and no other country on earth observes and/or enforces the OT Law’s social and legal consequences of sex sin. So let’s consider how the OT Law defines the sex sin from which we are to carefully and diligently abstain.
Lev 18:22 * And thou shalt not lie<07901> with mankind as one lieth with a
woman: it is an abomination. 23 And thou shalt lie<07901> with no beast to
become unclean therewith; and a woman shall not stand before a beast to lie<07901>
down with it: it is confusion.
A key word in this consideration is Strong's 07901 shakab {shaw-kab'}; v
Qal: to lie, lie down, lie on, to lie (of sexual relations)
The 3rd Century B.C. Jewish translators who gave us the Septuagint rendered
"Shakab" in the Greek as "Koitayn". Koitayn is rendered by Lexigrapher Thayer
as "cohabitation, . . . sexual intercourse." Harper's Analytical Greek Lexicon
agrees. Lexigraphers Arndt & Gingrich go even further rendering it as "sexual
intercourse, . . . seminal emission (Num 5:20 . . . Lev 15:16f, 32; 18:20; 22:4 . . .)." This is the Greek word used in Heb 13:4 of marital sex in the marriage bed. To have sexual intercourse with someone is to be communicating and/or interacting with someone by means of a sex organ (penis, pudenda, vulva, clitoris, vagina). If a person does not realize that there is communication and interaction when the penis of a man touches the skin of a woman, that person doesn't know sex. Nonverbal communication is as significant as verbal communication and powerful and effective nonverbal communication is the penis of a man touching the skin or mucous membrane of a woman, or the clitoris/labia/pudenda/vulva/vagina of a woman touching the skin or mucous membrane of a man, or the breast/nipple of a woman of a woman touching the skin or mucous membrane of a man. Only the ignorant fail to realize the reality of nonverbal communication when the penis of a man is inside the body of a woman.
Body fluids make one defiled or unclean under the Law. A woman who has contact with the penis fluids of a man who is not her own man maritally has been "defiled" sexually, and is fornication since a woman, under the Law should be defiled by penis fluids only by her own man. See Gen 34:5,13,27; Deut 22:20-30.
From the Holy Spirit's use of <07901> above I understand the following:
1. A single woman touching/doing the genital of a man is a single woman
relating to a man by means of his genital, therefore it is <07901 shakab> behavior.
If her relating to the man by his genital (anally, orally or manually) was
voluntary and she did not cry out for someone to rescue her from the man's
sexual activity,it was sex sin (Deut 22:23-29; Acts 21:16-26; 1 Cor 6:9-20), the
sex sin we are told to avoid and flee from in Acts 21:25 and 2 Tim 2:22.
2. A single woman receiving penis of man in her mouth is a single woman relating to a man by means of his genital, therefore it is <07901 shakab> behavior. If her relating to the man by his genital orally was voluntary and she did not cry out for someone to rescue her from the man's sexual activity, it was sex sin (Deut 22:23-29; Acts 21:16-26; 1 Cor 6:9-20), the sex sin we are told to
avoid and flee from in Acts 21:25 and 2 Tim 2:22.
3. A single woman receiving a penis in her anus is a single woman relating to a man by means of his genital, therefore it is <07901 shakab> behavior. If her relating to the man by his genital anally was voluntary and she did not cry out for someone to rescue her from the man's sexual activity,it was sex sin
(Deut 22:23-29; Acts 21:16-26; 1 Cor 6:9-20), the sex sin we are told to avoid
and flee from in Acts 21:25 and 2 Tim 2:22.
4. A single woman letting a man touch his penis to her skin (feet, legs, thighs, buttocks, buns, stomach, back, hand, arm, arm pit, neck, face and/or mouth) is a single woman relating by her skin to a man by means of his genital, therefore it is <07901 shakab> behavior. If her relating to the man by his
genital and her skin was voluntary and she did not cry out for someone to rescue her
from the man's sexual activity,it was sex sin (Deut 22:23-29; Acts 21:16-26; 1 Cor 6:9-20), the sex sin we are told to avoid and flee from in Acts 21:25 and 2 Tim 2:22.
5. If a man imagines and/or thinks about doing any of the above with a single woman, it is <07901 shakab> behavior, it is sex sin (Mat 5;28; Deut 22:23-29; Acts 21:16-26; 1 Cor 6:9-20), the sex sin we are told to avoid and flee from in Acts 21:25 and 2 Tim 2:22.
6. If a man imagines, thinks about or actually does touch any part of a
woman's skin other than her privates (pudenda, vagina, clitoris, vulva, labia,
anus, breasts, nipples) with any part of his body than his penis and/or scrotum,
it is not specifically or explicitly declared to be sin in the Bible, as far as I know, and comes under the principles of Romans 14. So as far as I know, it is a Romans 14 matter for a man to imagine, think about or actually use his hands or feet to massage a single woman's feet, legs, thighs, buns, stomach,
back, neck, hands, arms and/or face. The husband has sexual authority over the
body of his wife (1 Cor 7:3,4), so any other man should get permission from him
before he imagines, thinks about or actually touches those parts of another man's woman.
7. If a woman imagines, thinks about or actually does touch any part of a
man's skin other than his penis and/or scrotum with any part of her body other
than her her privates (pudenda, vagina, clitoris, vulva, labia, anus, breasts,
nipples), it is not specifically or explicitly declared to be sin in the Bible, as far as I know, and comes under the principles of Romans 14. So as far as I know, it is a Romans 14 matter for a single woman to imagine, think about or actually let a man use his hands/feet to massage her feet,
legs, thighs, buns, stomach, back, neck, hands, arms and/or face. The husband has sexual authority over the body of his wife (1 Cor 7:3,4), so any other man should get permission form him before she lets another man imagine, think about or actually touch those parts of hers; and she needs to get her own man's permission before she lets another man imagine, think about or actually touch her nonsexual parts.
8. The act of sexually stimulating oneself to to orgasm, without physical contact with another, is no where in the Bible declared specifically, explicitly or clearly to be sin, as long as one does not think sexually sinful thoughts. Self-stimulation that doesn't involve thoughts of actions that are specifically, explicitly and clearly declared to be sin by God, such self-stimulation becomes a matter of Romans 14. As far as I know, if a man has the doubt-free faith/belief that it is acceptable to God to self-stimulate to orgasm while thinking about kissing, licking and/or manually touching a single woman's feet, legs, thighs, buns, back, stomach, neck, hands, arms and/or face - while and after having massaged those body parts with olive oil and honey, it is a Romans 14 issue and he should have such faith/belief and/or practice privately, discretely and secretly before God according to Romans 14:22-23.
9.> As far as I know, if a single woman has the doubt-free faith/belief that it is acceptable to God to self-stimulate to orgasm while thinking about a man
kissing, licking and/or manually touching her feet, legs, thighs, buns, back, stomach,
neck, hands, arms and/or face, it is a Romans 14 issue and she should have
such faith/belief and/or practice privately, discretely and secretly before God according to Romans 14:22
10.> From Ezek 23 we learn more about sex sin in the following amplified (using Strong’s Lexicon) paraphrase:
‘Son of man, there were two women, daughters of one mother. 3* And they committed SEX SIN in Egypt; they committed SEX SIN in their youth: there were their breasts pressed, squeezed, handled, and pressed and there were handled, pressed, squeezed the nipples of their virginity. . . . 8* Neither left she
her SEX SINS brought from Egypt; for in her youth they had [SEXUALLY] lain with
her, and had handled, pressed, and squeezed the breasts and nipples of her virginity, and poured their sex sin upon her. . . 10* These laid bare and made known her pudenda and vagina, . . . and they executed judgment upon her. . . . . . 17* And the children of Babylon came to her into the SEXUAL LYING DOWN of lovemaking, and their sexual emissions defiled her with their SEX SIN; she shared her sexual emissions with them , and her soul was alienated from them. . . 18* And she laid bare and made known her sex sins, and laid bare and made known her pudenda and vagina; and my soul was alienated from her, like as my soul was alienated from her sister. . . . 20* and she evilly desired their female lovers, whose [sexual] flesh is as the [sexual] flesh of asses, and whose [sexual] issue is as the [sexual] issue of horses. 21 And you remembered the [sexually] loose ways of your early years, in the handling and using of your breasts and nipples by the Egyptians, for the [desire of your] breasts of your youth. . . . Behold, I will raise up your lovers against you, from whom your soul is alienated, and I will bring them against you on every side. 23 . . all of them attractive young men, governors and rulers, great lords and renowned, all of them riding upon horses. 24 And they shall come against you . . . and I will put judgment before them, and they shall judge you according to their judgments. 25 And I will set my jealousy against you, and they shall deal furiously with you: they shall cut off your nose and your ears, and your remnant shall fall by the sword; they shall take your sons and your daughters; and your residue shall be devoured by the fire. 26 They shall also strip you of your garments, and take away your fair jewels. [Ezek 23]
11.> Couple Ezek 23 - - -
3* And they committed SEX SIN in Egypt; they committed SEX SIN in their youth: there were their breasts pressed, squeezed, handled, and pressed and there were handled, pressed, squeezed the nipples of their virginity. . . 8* Neither left she her SEX SINS brou ght from Egypt; for in her youth they had [SEXUALLY] lain with her, and had handled, pressed, and squeezed the breasts and nipples of her virginity, and poured their sex sin upon her. . . 21 And she made the memory of the loose ways of her early years come back to mind, in the handling and using of your breasts and nipples by the Egyptians, for the [desire of your] breasts of your youth.
- - - - with Prov 5 - - - - -
20 [with Strong's references] And why will you, my son, be ravished <07686> (8799) with an immoral woman estranged [from God and His people]<02114> (8801), and embrace <02263> (8762) the bosom <02436> of one who is an alien [to God and His people] <05237>?
- - - - the understanding I have is that embracing, handling, pressing, using and/or squeezing the breasts of a woman who is not your own woman maritally - - - whether or not the breats/nipples be clothed or bare - - - - is sex sin.
12.> Ezek 23 makes it clear that it is sex sin to lay bare, uncover, and/or expose the pudenda/vulva/labia/vagina/clitoris of a woman who is not your own marital partner
18* And she laid bare and made known her sex sins, and laid bare and made known her pudenda and vagina; and my soul was alienated from her, like as my soul was alienated from her sister.
13.>The nonJewish Christian might be tempted to use 1 Tim 4:1-4 to rationalize doing oral sex when single or with a single woman. The error in that is that is essential to realize that "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" at the time of Acts 14, before the nonJewish Christians were released from most of the Sinai Law in Acts 15 and 21:15-26. For a proper understanding of the Word on "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" when the Spirit led the Apostles in Acts 15 and Acts 21:15-26, it has to be observed that the Spirit did not move the Apostles to change the definition of "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin". Just as Jesus did not change the definition of "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" when He first spoke of "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" in Mat 5:32; 19:9; the Apostles - inspired by the Spirit - in the same way did not change the definition of "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" when they instructed the nonJewish Christians to avoid "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" in Acts 15 and Acts 21:15-26. Oral sex and anal sex were sin because of the Sinai Laws of sex and uncleanness that both Jesus and the Apostles observed (Mat 23:3; Acts 21:24, 25, 26) the same Sinai Laws about "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" that they imposed on the nonJewish Christians when they told them to abstain from "fornication, sexual immorality, sex sin" in Acts 15 and Acts 21:15-26. Oral sex and anal sex were sin during Acts 14, and they continued to be sin after Acts 15.
Oral sex and genital to skin contact involves unholiness, uncleanness. The sin of uncleanness is the sin of violating holiness, sanctification, being set apart only for designated actions/functions. In marriage the wife's body is sexually sanctified, set apart, for her husband who has sexual authority over it; and the husband's body is sanctified, set apart, for his wife who has sexual authority over it (1 Cor 7:2-5). Holiness and moral cleanness are really important thing to God.
Lev 15:32This is the law for him that hath a flux, and for the one whose seed of copulation goeth from him, and who is defiled<02930> (8738) therewith:
Num 5:13 . . . and she be defiled <02930> (8738) . . . 14 . . . and she be defiled <02930> (8738) . . . 20 But if thou hast gone aside <07847> (8804) to another instead of thy husband <0376>, and if thou be defiled <02930> (8738) . . . 27 . . . then it shall come to pass, that, if she be defiled <02930> (8738), and have done <04603> (8799) trespass <04604> against her husband . . . 28 And if the woman <0802> be not defiled <02930> (8738), but be clean; . . . 29 . . . when a wife <0802> goeth aside <07847> (8799) to another instead of her husband <0376>, and is defiled <02930> (8738);
02930 tame' {taw-may'}; v
1) to be unclean, become unclean, become impure
1b) (Niphal 8738)
1b1) to defile oneself, be defiled
1b1a) sexually
Lev 15: 32 This is the law <08451> of . . . him whose seed <02233> <07902> goeth <03318> (8799) from him, and is defiled <02930> (8800) therewith;
33 . . . and of him that hath <02100> (8802) an issue <02101>, of the man <02145>, and of the woman <05347>, . . . .
From the useage of the word in the passages below and above, we see how
Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary describes these sexual acts in its definition
of intercourse, "3: physical sexual contact between individuals that involves
the genitalia of at least one person." We know that sexual relations are
relations where one relates to another by means of a sex organ, the penis, scrotum, pudenda, vulva, labia, clitoris, and/or vagina. So the full meaning of Lev
18:22 * And thou shalt not have physical sexual relations with mankind by the
gentalia of at least one person, as one has physical sexual relations with a
woman by the genitalia of at least one person: it is an abomination.
++++Dt 22:28 * If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed,
and lay hold on her, and have physical sexual relations with her by means of
the genitalia of at least one person
<07901>, and they be found; 29 * Then the man that had physical sexual relations
with her by means of the genitalia of at least one person<07901> shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.
++++Ex22: 16* ¶ And if a man seduce a virgin that is not betrothed, and lie<07901-shakab> with her, he shall certainly endow her, to be his wife.
Strong's Lexicon: <07901> shakab {shaw-kab'}; Qal; v: to lie (of sexual relations); of relating to another sexually, i.e. relating to another by means of an external sex organ, penis or pudenda/vulva/labia/clitoris/vagina.
A man sexually relates to a woman by genital to genital sex, genital to mouth
sex, genital to hand sex, genital to anal sex - in fact by penis to almost any part of a woman. In the case of the last three of these, the genital and or breasts of the woman need not be involved for it to be Shakab-Koitayn<7901> sex.
A woman sexually relates to a man by genital to genital sex, genital to mouth
sex, genital to hand sex, genital to anal sex - in fact by penis to almost any part of a woman. In the case of the last three of these, the genital of the man need not be involved for it to be Shakab-Koitayn<7901> sex.
A homosexual relates to a man by genital to genital sex, genital to mouth sex, genital to hand sex, genital to anal sex - in fact by penis to almost any part of a woman. In the case of the last three of these, the genital of one of the males need not be involved for it to be Shakab-Koitayn<7901> sex.
***We know that it is sex sin for a man to touch and/or do the breasts of a woman who is not his own (Prov 5:19,20,21; Ezek 23:3,8,21; Acts 21:16-26; 1 Cor 6:9-20). So it is a sex sin for a woman to let a man who is not her own man touch and/or do her breasts.
***We know that it is sex sin for a man to see, touch and/or do the pudenda,
vulva, clitoris, and/or vagina of a woman who is not his own woman (Prov
5:19,20,21; Ezek 23:3-21; Acts 21:16-26; 1 Cor 6:9-20). Since the anus is usually just an inch from the vagina, it is logical that it would come under the same principles as the vagina. It is an acrobatic feet to cover the vagina but not the anus, to touch the anus and not touch the vagina. So it is sex sin for a woman to let a man (who is not her own man) see, touch and/or do her pudenda,
vulva, clitoris, vagina and/or anus.
***We know that it is sex sin for a married woman to touch the genitals of a man who is not her own man (De 25:11,12).
What about a single woman touching doing the genital of a man?
What about a single woman receiving penis of man in her mouth?
What about a single woman receiving a penis in her anus?
+++Here "lie with" includes anal, oral and hand sex
***Le 18:22 * Thou shalt not lie<07901>
with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
***Le 20:13 * If a man also lie<07901> with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
+++Here "lie with" includes anal, oral and hand sex
***Le 20:11 And the man that lieth<07901> with his father's wife hath uncovered his father's nakedness: both of them shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. . .12 And if a man lie<07901> with his daughter in law, both of them shall surely be put to death: they have wrought confusion; their blood shall be upon them. . . . 18 * And if a man shall lie<07901> with a woman having her sickness, and shall uncover her nakedness; he hath discovered her fountain, and she hath uncovered the fountain of her blood: and both of them shall be cut off from among their people. . . . 20 And if a man shall lie<07901> with his uncle's wife, he hath uncovered his uncle's nakedness: they shall bear their sin; they shall die childless.
+++Here "lie with" includes anal, oral and hand sex
***De 22:22 If a man be found lying<07901> with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay<07901> with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. . . . 23 * If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie<07901> with her; . . . 25 But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie<07901>
with her: then the man only that lay<07901> with her shall die: . . . 28 * If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie<07901> with her, and they be found; 29 * Then the man that lay<07901>
with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she
shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all
his days.
THE POSITIVE SIDE OF THE SEX COIN
18 Your genital should be blessed; and have joy of the wife of your youth. 19
As a lovely hind and a graceful roe, her breasts should satisfy you at all
times: be ravished in orgasmic ecstasy continually with her lovemaking. 20 And
why should you, my son, be ravished inorgasmic ecstasy with an immoral woman,
and embrace the bosom of one who doesn't belong to you? 21 For the ways of man
are before the eyes of the LORD Jesus, and He pondereth all his goings. 22 His
own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the
cords of his sins. 23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness
of his folly he shall go astray. [PROV 5 ]
A word to the ladies about their marital sex and affectionate embracing - if
you want your man to hold you, hold his penis. If you want your man to embrace
and caress you, embrace and caress his penis. If you want your man to stroke
and massage you, stroke and massage his penis. Think of it as a control stick,
a computer joy stick, and get the results you want.
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